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i own the story of me

July 28, 2019 , , , , , , , , , , ,

When we own our own stories, we avoid being trapped as characters in the stories of someone else’s telling. [Brené Brown, Rising Strong.]

How do I come out from under the incorrect assumptions of others?

By getting up from the disappointment, the disagreement, the difficulty, and continuing to do my thing, which is absolutely and wholeheartedly be myself in line with my values, so that I am breaking the misconceptions.

Someone – and you will all have that someone in mind – can say something about me because they are threatened, want to change the public perception of me, or want to damage my character and plant that seed of doubt in someone else’s mind. It could be by accident or design, but it creates misunderstanding of who I am, how I work, and what I stand for. How do I shake this? How do I bring the my true character forward?

Refuting each claim is one way to do it, but it’s tiring and ineffective. It means that you’re going in to bat for yourself, which is effective sometimes, but it’s your word against theirs, and an uncomfortable fight.

Actions are powerful. I have a lot of faith that if you keep doing what you do consistently, your true character and worth will come through. It’s a humbling act, to keep working and doing through misconception, but it’s honest and accurate, as it allows the other people the opportunity to truly see you. 

What people think of you is none of your business, your business is just to get up and do you. 

So therefore, if I continue to do me in every way, if I continue to  turn up and tell my story, do my work, and live my values, there are now two opposing stories to choose from.

The shadow one, and mine.

Which do you think is going to be the most gripping telling?!

Mine is going to be a FUCKING BEST-SELLER if I’m telling it. 😎

Those who choose to put merit and weight on another person’s inaccurate telling of me are people that are not worth my time and energy.

There is no point in trying to convert them to my story, I’ll just be yelling into the wind. Better to keep telling my story joyfully and saving that energy for my work, myself, my loved ones. Because I’m not going to appeal to everyone, I’m not going to be a perfect fit all the time.

But if the values are strong in my storytelling, no one can mistake the authenticity, even if they don’t like the story. 

And those who have the courage to examine both stories side by side, and have the perception to take value in mine will be converted, because I get to re-tell and re-shape all the details of me, my story, my actions, my life, my values in the most accurate, honest, beautiful, breathtaking, and authentic manner.

Yes, it’s annoying to do the U-turn and to have to do the redraft.

But I get to rewrite the script. In rising up and owning my story, I get to say it like it is.

And my god, when I tell my story and I am on fire with the light and heat of my story, it is a fucking magnificent thing to behold. ONE HELL ROLLICKING TALE.

Who would want the shadow version?

I’m holding the pen filled with possibility. No flimsy shadow story will have a piece on me. 

And in telling my story, I get the chance to educate people on how to treat me, how to respect me, and how to interact with me, how to connect with me, and how to love me.

I am the teacher to others of myself in the world. 

 

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